Being Fruitful Without Multiplying by Patricia Yvette

Author:Patricia Yvette
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: career, baby, balance, childless, childfree, biological clock
Publisher: Coffeetown Press
Published: 2012-11-07T05:00:00+00:00

Thirties

Iriny Samy, 30

English Teacher / Aerobics Instructor

Cairo, Egypt

I’ve been married for four and a half years. At age sixteen I decided to stay childfree. I was impatient around kids and I used to pity mothers and worry that I’d be that kind of woman one day. Their lives really sucked. When I got engaged I had nightmares about becoming pregnant and having a baby and would wake up so depressed that I decided to speak frankly with my fiancé; he would have to choose me or a family and kids. He (and many others) thought I would change my mind, so he just said okay, that we would think about it again in four years. I said “I won’t change my mind,” but he just smiled. After almost five years, he has begun looking at kids in a different way—as if they are angels—but I still see them constraining my inner me.

I think most people know why childfree people don’t want to have kids—too much responsibility, too tiring, they don’t feel nurturing, don’t like kids, are too impatient, are already satisfied and happy with their lives, can find no logical reason to, believe the world is already too full of pain and suffering, and they are freaked out by all the bad parenting they see every day (and have experienced in their own lives). To someone like me, having children seems crazy.

In other words, I am happy to be free and think that being traditional is stupid. Yes, people do not approve, but it’s my life and if I had listened to them, I wouldn’t have accomplished so much. The reason I have been able to fulfill most of my dreams is that I don’t have children. To those who think we are crazy, I say, remember that it’s a personal issue. Let us be different, let us exercise free will, and please do not be disrespectful by challenging our right to choose our own paths.

It’s better to ruin your carpet than ruin your life, and my Labrador is my life.

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